Boys_Sons

Mothers of sons and daughters have crossed my path lately, all asking the same question: Why does my son  __________?

Allow me to explain, briefly, their dilemna. They have several children, a mix of boys and girls. These mothers are frustrated by the rowdiness of their sons, and their inability to sit still. They are upset with their natural aggressiveness, especially when it is acted upon a younger sibling. They need to know a way to settle them down.

And, when it comes to school, they simply don't know how to get him to do his lessons. He is destructive, he fights, he wrestles, he shouts, he takes things apart, he wants to play, etc.  These are just the tip of the iceberg of complaints from moms who just don't know what to do. That little adorable boy is fast becoming  a mean bully that they don't like very much. "Where did I go wrong?" they wonder. http://www.brainy-child.com/article/boys-behavior.shtml" target="_blank">Why do boys behave the way they do?

Ladies, Moms, sit down, take a deep breath, relax...I'm going to let you in on a secret about boys. Are you prepared for this. It is simple. So simple, in fact, that it will knock your socks off and make your hair curl. Ready?

Moms, Ladies, they are B-O-Y-S, boys! You changed his diapers, you should know.

Yep, them boys, let me tell ya, sister, are not like those girls. Oh yes, they have many common flaws and wonderful features, and some girls just naturally act like boys, but boys will be boys is a tired, old, but true, cliche'. 

There's been a big mix-up in our world since Adam knew Eve. During the 20th century great strides were made to do away with gender differences, to prove that men and women were exactly alike except for biology and anatomy. Unfortunately, scietific research has proven, conclusively, that that is not true. We are different on many levels. But I want to get back to my mom friends.

Boys will be boys! It's true. They have an instinctive need to be in charge, to fight, to make things happen, to be busy doing, to fix -which mean break things to find out how they work so they can fix them. They don't like to sit still, be quiet, or be confined--it's in their nature. They can be trained to do all this, in short spurts, when it is necessary, but otherwise they want to be out exploring new territory, hunting a bear, building a fort, being a cowboy, making a fire, fixing a car,... you get the idea.

If males did not have this inner, God-given instinct, the human race would have died out long ago. Man, woman, and child, would have died of starvation, exposure to the elements, or been eaten by some wild creature. Yes, ladies, we need them. But they need us too.

So, what's a mom to do? Mom has to learn to let them be boys. They need to wrestle and venture and within reason, do what boys do.

There is a big complaint today of men not being manly. How do you think they got that way? Between personal observation, brainstorming with other parents with sons, and reading articles on this topic, the conclusion is this: boys and men are no longer permitted to act like men and boys. Common thinking says: aggression is bad, no-one should be the boss-certainly not a man, "anything you can do I can do better" thinking has taken over, and the results are upside-down thinking about what a normal, healthy male should be like.

Mothers of boys need to find the line between molly-coddling their sons and sissifying them, and not letting them go so wild that they have no self-control and wind up in the state penitentiary.

Let them be rough, play rough, wrestle, jump, climb trees, play football, seek adventure, do things that scare you to death and make you fear for their safety. Yes, they will get hurt, and break things, and take years off your life, and add grey hairs to your lovely locks, but they will love you all the more for it. They will thank you for letting them be boys and not making them into "girlie-men." Their future in-laws, and wives with thank you for it too.

Mrs. Bob (Terry)

Joyful, Blessed mother of 4 sons and 2 daughters & living proof that you will survive--our sons are 23, 21, 18, and 12. daughters are 21 and almost 15.

http://www.brainy-child.com/article/boys-behavior.shtml Why Boys Behave the way they